February 28, 2019
My wife and I are launching a podcast next month. We’re also going to start trying to start a family, which is the much, much bigger deal of the two, but I think focusing on the smaller, more manageable task is helping me keep myself collected.
We’ve been talking about having kids forever, and for various reasons, none of which are terribly interesting if you aren’t in our marriage, we picked a date in March to start rolling the dice.
This is obviously a very personal thing, something many couples who plan to have kids woudn’t share for fear of jinxing it or just oversharing. A watched pot never boils, and that sort of mentality. So why in the world would I announce it all over the internet?
For one, I didn’t want us to go through this alone. We stay in touch with our families and some old friends, but we don’t really have many people in the Boston area who we would typically share things like this with. I’m certain that as this process goes on we’ll have plenty to be excited about, nervous, or anxious about. Doing this show gives us the opportunity to give regular updates to people who care about us and would want to know how it’s going.
Also, I’ve been very touched by the stories I’ve read online documenting people’s struggles with creating families of their own. Casey Liss and Daniel Farrelly in particular come to mind, but I’ve read countless stories from people who feel, at various points in the process, alone, scared, hopeless, or depressed. I don’t know what’s in the cards for us, how easy or difficult this is going to be, or what setbacks we’re going to encounter. I do know that I don’t want to feel like we’re the only ones going through our struggle, and I’m hoping being open about our experiences can either help ourselves or help others during this exciting, terrifying time.
But mostly, I’m just hoping that this will be a fun thing for Rosalee and I to do together. I think it’ll be good to have dedicated time set aside to check in with each other, make sure we’re ok, laugh, cry, do whatever we need to do to sync up. I love my wife so much, and I love finding opportunities to spend time with her.
The show is called We’re Trying, which I thought was very funny. I don’t really care if you do or not 😆. I wanted it to evoke not only literal truth of what we’re doing, but also get across that we’re just going to be trying our best. At times along the way we will certainly fail or screw up, but at the end of the day the best you can do is give it your all, and that’s what we’re gonna do. And if we like this experience, maybe we’ll continue the show after we have the kid! Chronicle the first years and all that. I guess I just like the idea of archiving this experience for the same reason I run this blog and take so many pictures of my wife and cat. So I have a reference for a time in life I expect to love :)
So if you wanna follow along on our journey you can find the show on Apple Podcasts and subscribe now. We’ll be publishing the first episode sometime in mid-March, so keep an eye out!